Gay men: brace yourselves: Penn State’s sex scandal.

Let us gay men face reality – a hetero man has been caught with a young boy in sex galore – maybe several boys. It’s all being investigated right now. The facts as they are known are horrid – a middle aged man married hetero man caught naked with a young 10 year old boy. It is horrible and despicable – there is no willy nilly about this. Every gay man in this nation – near 80% or so completely college football illiterate – and thus not really realizing the import of this scandal – is appalled. What gay men are that aware of Sandusky and Paterno? Few, very few, I dare say.

How hetero is Jerry Sandusky? This hetero: http://thestir.cafemom.com/in_the_news/128466/how_could_jerry_sanduskys_wife

The man is married for 15 years – to a woman! And perhaps with a previous wife, I didn’t look that hard. Still, what he did is the fear of all heterosexuals about gay men – that we are “Recruiting!” Nothing could be further from the truth – we know this. Alas they, our heterosexual opponents, don’t believe us.

But we have no voice. No one will listen to us, trust me on this. What will be heard on national TV, and in the sensational press, is that a man sexually abused a young boy. Not a “married hetero man” but just a “man” – and we will be tarred and feathered in ways we always have been. And this, us gay men, we must now face anew. So what shall we say?

Is this “gay”? ABSOLUTELY NOT – not any more than a hetero man abusing a young girl indicts “heterosexuality.” Alas, gay men are automatically accused of this horrid crime against decency, law, and rational thought – and against children. It won’t make a damn difference that heteros are found guilty of this all the time – but “Heterosexuality” itself is excused. – “Homosexuality” will be accused here, despite the fact that this Sandusky fellow was a heterosexual – as are every other involved in this scandal from the get go. Reality is, alas, only we gay men will be “accused” of the crime. (Lesbians are so lucky.)

That the victims will all be hetero, having gone through this all – though, sadly dysfunctional or at least enraged — will not be counted against the bizarre idea that gay men are all “molested” into the “gay lifestyle.” That these poor victims are were not “made” gay at all will not be relevant to the story – for what, ultimately, will be the story, is that gay men were recruiting boys. Were any boys recruited? No. But that will not alter the narrative, trust me on that. And we are guilty by no association one could think of. Sandusky never entered a gay bar – he never tried to smooch someone his own age – other than his wife, a real women indeed.

Here’s several reports of the horrifying events, the facts as others reported, I shall deal with the thought behind them:

http://rivals.yahoo.com/ncaa/football/news?slug=dw-wetzel_paterno_statement_raises_more_questions110611

http://rivals.yahoo.com/ncaa/football/news?slug=dw-wetzel_penn_state_child_sex_case_110511

http://abcnews.go.com/US/joe-paterno-speaks-prayer-victims-alleged-child-sex/story?id=14905312#.TroS8VYg9dM

And so yes, I and every other gay man is sickened, distraught, dismayed and disheartened that such a thing could happen – we are among the first to say: Don’t bother the young boys! That’s what the entire “Anti-bullying” campaign is about: leave the boys alone.

That every single hetero in the mix was simply “unaware” or somehow “oblivious” is the reality. The denial, the hemming and hawing, the lack of admission, the “What? What did I know?” will come at a furious pace – and somewhere along the way “homosexuality” will arise – no doubt about it. The thing Sandusky did is so horrible, it cannot be avoided. “Sodomizing a 10 year old boy” does not easily get dismissed – and it should not.

And underneath it all will linger, somewhat unsaid by the more rational, but well seized upon by our vociferous opponents: “See! Gay men recruit young boys into the lifestyle!”

Is any of that true? Nope. We gay men know this. But we will not be able to counteract or dispute any of it. No one will listen to our voices. No press person will come and ask our erstwhile leaders: “So what of the gay angle.”

No, it will be thrown at us, and we have naught to say, but by bloggers such as I.

This man – this sick and demented hetero man – has now tarred and feathered us gay men with his actions – in a way we will never be able to counteract. Which infuriates me.

He simply has destroyed multiple years of our efforts to convince even our own families we are decent people. This heterosexual – married – for nearly 2 decades – perhaps with a previous wife – whom I didn’t bother to research – nor if he had biological kids – but heterosexual nonetheless – without any doubt about it – has now destroyed all gay man’s protestations and reality to the opposite – WE DO NOT MOLEST BOYS.

Makes no difference, alas – now every anti-gay group in the nation (which are never concerned much with Lesbians,) will blame this on us.

Frankly, if gay men had guns, we should go and take this man out and shoot him.

(update — my friend Ted rightly commented that we shouldn’t just kill the man, no. And I certainly don’t advocate that at all. Sometimes though, in a moment of anger, one can have a sentiment that goes too far, before letting the law put the man away forever. I would suppose many a victim of a crime, or the spouse of a murdered man, or even the parents of a raped child would get the sentiment, and then let the law do it’s thing.)

He has set back our crusade for a shred of decency by proportions we cannot measure as mere mortal gay men – not a one of us who would do this despicable crime – but, fear not, we shall be blamed.

Brace yourselves, gay men, brace yourselves.

20 Comments

  1. ted

    Calling for his execution is extreme. If you want child predators executed, enact a law. Otherwise, even gay vigilantism is uncalled for and, no matter how valid the sentiment, not the way we do business.

  2. Yes, Ted, that’s true. I’m of course not actually advocating taking the man out and shooting him. I’m not even into executing child predators either. So no, but sometimes, well, sometimes thoughts do run. :)

  3. Dave Nelson

    Uh, HE had sex with BOYS – male on male. That may be BI or it may be HOMO, but one thing it is not is HETERO. Your weak obfuscation masks something you know to be true – homosexual pedophilia is a huge problem. If a man is willing to violate the long-standing cultural and religious prohibition against homosexuality, why would he stop there? The prohibition against multiple partners becomes just another “Victorian” hang-up (and stats prove gays are more promiscuous than heterosexuals). Why is the societal prohibition against pedophilia a barrier if the other barriers are so easily crossed?

  4. Sir, he did indeed have sex with boys, and he is indeed apparently a happily married hetero man. And I did not “weakly obfuscate” anything –> I said “brace yourself” — for I merely pointed out that all gay men would now be charged with “pedophilia” which is, according to all known collected statistics not a “gay” problem — or a “homosexual” problem — but in fact — a pedophilia problem — which is exactly what you then did. You have extrapolated from one man to “all” gay men — and there’s no evidence for it. Further more, as is usual with the kids abused — they all are heteros when they grow up. Thank you for proving my point “brace yourself.” Cheers.

    • Dave Nelson

      Who has charged “all gay men with pedophilia”? I’m simply asserting that you do gay men a disservice when you claim that a male who has sex with another male is heterosexual. Besides, who are you to say pedophilia (intergenerational intimacy) is wrong? Why do you get to decide right and wrong? You sound very judgmental … and Victorian … and intolerant.

    • Dave Nelson

      Also, your reference of “all collected statistics” is sorely lacking. Even homosexual Alfred Kinsey found that 37% of all male homosexuals admitted to having sex with children under 17 years old. A more recent study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that “The best epidemiological evidence indicates that only 2-4% of men attracted to adults prefer men. In contrast, around 25-40% of men attracted to children prefer boys. Thus, the rate of homosexual attraction is 6-20 times higher among pedophiles.” Of course, there are many more, but we already knew that instinctively, didn’t we? I was molested by a gay man and would bet money you were too. I’m sorry.

  5. Sir,

    I approved your comments, for I wish to engage in thought. Thank you for taking the time to respond.

    Alas, you have made the rather strange conclusion that because you were molested by a “gay man” that I was, too. Nothing could be further from the truth — I was never molested, nor even hit upon by a gay guy — and when I first did throw away my virginity (I didn’t lose it,) I was closer to 21 than 20 — and I did it with a 28 year old, willingly, fully aware of what I was doing.

    Nor do I know any gay man who ever said he was molested. I’m not even sure you can molest the willing, if I can be so crude.

    And let me be clear — I abhor the sexual abuse of children by adults — it is so horrendous to me that I can’t fathom the pain to those kids — nor to you. If I could give you balm, I would. I cannot, I’m sorry.

    Now, I don’t know if you are gay — perhaps you are — I think not — but I don’t know — but molesting boys is not a “homosexual” thing — it is not “gay men molest boys” as simply the way we are. Are there some gays who molest boys? I’m sure yes. Are there lots of heteros who molest girls certainly so. But don’t quote me Kinsey, one of the most disreputable sources and discarded sources of any info about gays. Nor can any relation be shown that any molestation somehow creates gay men. It is fantasy.

    Mr. Sandusky, for all intents and purposes is a heterosexual man — he’s married to a woman for 15 years. You conflate two things — gay men and this man. I somehow don’t think you would ever say that all Heterosexual men molest little girls because of a few heteros who do that, or do you?

    There’s something else with this molestation sordidness than mere “gay” or “straight.”

    And yes, I am rather a prude when it comes to such things — I find it abhorrent — and 99% of the gay men I have ever met have felt the same — and the 1% I avoid like the plague.

    I value comments, I don’t appreciate attacks or unfounded allegations about either my life or myself, or my friends.

    I pointed out, in my article — that all gay men will be accused of being complicit in this issue — you have proved my case. Thank you very much.

    I am also very saddened that you were molested, even if by a “gay” man — blame him — not me. Do not do this “all gays molest boys” nonsense however — or all Hetero men shall be accused of the same thing.

    Thank you, God bless you, and may you find respite from your righteous pain and anger.

    Cheers,
    Jim Hlavac
    the daily mush.

    PS, how much money will you be sending me for having lost the bet?

  6. Thank you for this post. I am a straight mother of boys, and have been very disturbed by the rampant homophobia practiced within the world of athletics. Since this story broke, I have wondered how often Sandusky and others in the Penn State athletic department admonished young men not to be “homos, pussies, or fags”. The hypocrisy of “mas machismo” in sports makes me ill, and I’ve only recently been able to smile about sports since so many baseball teams have done “It gets better” videos. This child molester and rapist very likely made gay youth feel horrible for years.

    Gay men who have healthy self-esteem and fulfilling lives DO NOT RAPE CHILDREN! Sandusky is a pervert because he uses his strength and power to make children engage in sex, not because he has sex with males. A feminist analysis of rape and power would make some interesting connections between rape and university athletic departments. In fact, several years ago a football coach was called out for motivating the team members by encouraging them to “go home and beat their girlfriends”.

    I stand with you.

    • Why, thank you ma’am, thank you very much. God bless you and your sons.

  7. Jerry Sandusky is not heterosexual. Many of us gay men have married, produced offspring, does that make us heterosexual? No.

    • While it may be true that some gay men were married (“many?” I doubt it, not in current times,) and had kids — it’s estimated that only some 25% of gay men have any biological children — it’s also true that gay guys who got married said they were, or believed they were, or hoped to be heterosexuals indeed — and virtually all of them who realized they were gay got out of their gal marriages as quickly as they could and got down to a gay bar. On the other hand, Sandusky is still married, and he’s never been with an adult man in his life. This is not really Hetero v Homo — but crazed predator against kids.

      And my argument was that gay men as gay men are going to be the ones blamed for this: the old fashioned “Homosexuals” molest children — while factually — no gay men living as gay men ever seem to be caught with boys or girls — and yet our reputations as “Homosexuals” as a group will be sullied for what an ostensibly heterosexual married man did. Sandusky is a heterosexual as much as any other heterosexual child molester — and “heterosexuality” is never blamed for the molestation. Thank you.

  8. As the pedophile scandal continues to unravel at Penn State University, it is important to recognize other interesting connections in this story:

    Wendell Courtney: Courtney represented both Penn State University and “The Second Mile” charity founded by indicted pedophile Gerald Sandusky.

    “According to the Grand Jury presentment, Courtney was at the least made aware of the allegations against Jerry Sandusky that were leveled in 1998. ”Schultz testified that the 1998 incident was reviewed by the University Police and “the child protection agency” with the blessing of then-University counsel Wendell Courtney,” it reads.

    “Courtney was then and remains counsel for The Second Mile.” (Source)

    The 1998 accusations, which involved Sandusky showering nude with a 10 year old male at Penn State, were apparently covered up and not prosecuted. Ray Gricar did not prosecute the accusations, in-spite of witnessing Jerry Sandusky confess to them. Gricar disappeared in 2005, along with the hard drive from his computer, and has since been declared dead.

    Courtney, being aware of such actions, and representing both Penn State and The Second Mile, which claims to have helped over 100,000 youth, finding all of this OK is another scandal in and of itself. At the very least, he had the responsibility to advise Penn State and the Second Mile to terminate their relationship with Sandusky, or face exposure from numerous civil lawsuits from the future victims of a confessed pedophile!

  9. how do we know the rape in the shower room was actual? it happened 9 years ago, I believe that this is a scam initiated by the evil religious reich in response to don,t ask don,t tell being lifted, n 2002 this incedence was not reported as a rape, not until 2011 has this story been changed.It,s war on gays

    • Um, sir, an eyewitness said he saw it — actually, two eyewitnesses saw such things — and then reported to other people, who knew of the man’s contact with other boys — and so, at least 8 hetero men heard the story. Yes, the time to have done the investigating was back then — it should have been supported — the 8 did not do so, as required by law, that’s the cover up part. What these guy’s political affiliations are, I don’t know. But somehow, I don’t think the grand jury is run by the “religious reich” as you say, and if they wanted to trash gays over DADT they might well have come up with some military, rather than a university sports team. But thanks for the comment.

  10. CHRISTOPHER ALLEN HORTON

    AS A MALE HOMOSEXUAL WHO BEGAN HAVING SEX AT THE AGE OF SEVEN (I AM NOW, FORTY-FIVE), I AM TIRED OF OTHER MALE HOMOSEXUALS BEING AFRAID TO ADMIT MANY HOMOSEXUAL BOYS AT THE ONSET OF PUBERTY HAVE SEX WITH ADULT MALES. WHEREAS HETEROSEXUAL BOYS CAN ONLY (FOR THE MOST PART) FANTASIZE ABOUT ADULT FEMALES, HOMOSEXUAL BOYS HAVE AN ABUNDANCE OF OPPORTUNITIES TO ACTUALLY HAVE SEX WITH ADULT MALES. I DO NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH THE SANDUSKY SITUATION IF THE TEN-YEAR-OLD ALREADY KNOWS HE IS HOMOSEXUAL. I AM NOT A HYPOCRITE; IT IS A SHAME OTHER ADULT MALE HOMOSEXUALS ARE!

  11. Sir, the 10 year old boy apparently did not willingly have sex with Sandusky — neither did any of the other victims — those found have said they were not at all into what was happening — and strangely, they all grew up to be straight — which shows that apparently mere molesting doesn’t “recruit” boys into “the gay lifestyle,” which is a common belief. And my contention is not that some young gay men, teens, have sex with someone 10 or 20 years older then they are — though even then it would be hard to find those gay men — and Sandusky, for all intents and purposes is heterosexual. My contention is that all gay men will be accused of “molesting” boy merely because we’re gay — and that “homosexuality” will be blamed on the whole affair. While heteros, who abuse girls far more, are never condemned as “heterosexuals.”

    • CHRISTOPHER ALLEN HORTON

      SIR, I WAS ONLY TRYING TO MAKE THE POINT SOME BOYS AT THE ONSET OF PUBERTY HAVE ONLY HAD FEELINGS OF SEXUAL AROUSAL FOR OTHER MALES – N-E-V-E-R FOR FEMALES. SINCE WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY IN WHICH ACCESS TO SAME GENDER NUDITY IS ACCEPTABLE (SCHOOL LOCKER ROOMS, PUBLIC RESTROOMS, ETC.) THE PERIOD OF SEXUAL FANTASY FOR HOMOSEXUAL BOYS IS EXTREMELY SHORT COMPARED TO THE “WAITING PERIOD” FOR HETEROSEXUAL BOYS. MANY HETEROSEXUAL BOYS AT THE ONSET OF PUBERTY FANTASIZE ABOUT ADULT FEMALES – USUALLY, UNTIL HIGH-SCHOOL PROM NIGHT OR AFTER REACHING THE AGE OF EIGHTEEN. ON THE OTHER HAND, HOMOSEXUAL BOYS – AT THE ONSET OF PUBERTY – HAVE AN ABUNDANCE OF OPPORTUNITIES FOR SEX WITH ADULT MALES. IN THESE SITUATIONS PARENTS AND SCHOOL OFFICIALS ARE OFTEN OBLIVIOUS TO WHAT IS GOING ON. YET, THE ADULT MALE HOMOSEXUAL IS BLAMED AND LABELLED A PEDOPHILE.

  12. why did mcquerry change his story from 9 years ago from something inapropiate in the shower to hardcore sex in a shower stall?is he a member of a right wing christian church, ittook him 9 years to come up with this wild story, and everybody believes this to be the gospel truth, I for one do not believe this crazy story he came up with after 9 long years.

    • CHRISTOPHER ALLEN HORTON

      ROBERT WIESNER,
      McQUERRY TOLD THE STORY BECAUSE HE IS NOW FULLY AWARE OF HIS HOMOSEXUALITY. HE IS PROBABLY HAVING PROBLEMS WITH HIS ORIENTATION IN REFERENCE TO RELATING TO HIS FAMILY. THIS PROBLEM IS CAUSED BY SOCIETY’S PRESSURE TO MAKE ADOLESCENT MALES WHO HAVE SEX WITH ADULT MALES FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE BEEN ABUSED. IN MOST CASES, ADOLESCENT MALES VIEW THIS TYPE OF SEXUAL EXPERIENCE AS A “CHANCE OF A LIFETIME” [OR, THE START OF NEW EXPERIENCES] WHICH IS CHERISHED THROUGHOUT CHILDHOOD. CONTRARY TO POPULAR BELIEF, MALE HOMOSEXUALS BEGIN SEX PLAY BETWEEN THE AGES OF SEVEN THROUGH TWELVE – NOT EIGHTEEN. THIS FALLACY PROVIDES CONSTANT EMPLOYMENT FOR PSYCHOTHERAPISTS. IF McQUERRY CAN BE HONEST WITH HIMSELF, HE WILL VIEW THIS CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCE IN A GOOD LIGHT.
      CHRISTOPHER ALLEN HORTON

  13. I can’t speak to McQueary’s motives nor his religion — however, he did feel it was something to report, and so did Joe Paterno, and a Janitor there also reported another incident with a child and Sandusky — so two reports — then other victims have come forward, 8 so far. I’m not sure who is believing this as “gospel truth” — but the thing to do then was to call the cops so they could investigate something which obviously several people thought was important enough to bring up to others at the time — but to ban Sandusky from bringing any more boys to the locker room.

    I’m sure court testimony will determine whose story is more believable — my point was — “homosexuality” and “homosexuals” will get blamed for this — regardless of any facts at all.

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